blogging thru Scary Close – chapters 15 and 16

“You complete me” is the line that lost me in the movie Jerry McGuire. It’s just such a ridiculous concept. Having this expectation of another person is CRAZY. I mean it. Downright crazy. But it sounds so romantic. This whole idea that getting married will take away so much of your hurt and your brokenness and […]

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blogging thru Scary Close – chapter 14

Chapter 14 is called Do Men Do Intimacy Differently? This is the longest chapter in the book, and the one all the women will run to in attempt to understand the men in their lives. Will it accomplish that? I’m not sure. The first sentence is one that struck fear in my heart: “Men move […]

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blogging thru Scary Close – chapters 12 and 13

Vulnerability and openness act as the soil that fosters security. (pg. 157) In chapter 12, Don writes about a friend who cheated on his wife when their children were very young.  He chose to tell them what he did, once they grew old enough to understand. He believed openness and honesty would bring intimacy, and […]

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blogging thru Scary Close [the risk of being careful – chapter 11]

I remember being part of a ministry in college where we were trained to be mediators for our fellow students. We had a wonderful pastor and counselor train us during a weekend retreat each year. Showing us how to listen, how to manage conflict, how to do the hard things of life with our fellow […]

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blogging thru Scary Close – chapters 9 and 10

Deception in any form kills intimacy. (pg 103) If you’ve been lurking around here at all in the last 18 months or so, you’ve probably realized that I’m working on living an authentic life. A lot. I don’t think that’s meant that I was living in deception before, but that I am working to tear […]

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blogging thru Scary Close – chapters 7 and 8

Do you ever get tired of trying? I do. I get tired of trying to be more than I actually am. Tired of being the one who presses. Tired of being the one who is desperate. Tired of being the one who is always drowning, asking for help (But no one can hear her.) Tired […]

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blogging thru Scary Close – chapters 5 and 6

I’m just gonna be straightforward: I hate chapter 5. I hate it because it’s about change. And fear. I’m going through a lot of change in my life right now. Most of the relationships in my life have changed recently. My job is changing significantly. My job has always been a bit chaotic, and so […]

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blogging thru Scary Close – chapters 3 and 4

We all have a façade. Maybe because everyone does, it makes having this façade seem more acceptable in our minds. But the more I think about it, the angrier I get.  I don’t want the façade a person puts in front of me, and I really don’t want the façade of someone I’m close to […]

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blogging thru Scary Close – chapters 1 and 2

“I’d have to know myself and be known.” – Donald Miller, Chapter 1, Scary Close. Sound familiar? I’m, of course, not accusing Don of plagiarizing me. That’s ridiculous. But when I read this, my heart stopped. Because it’s what in learned in 2013 after a very long and intense bible study. (Click HERE to read that […]

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blogging thru Scary Close – introduction

I’ve read most of Donald Miller’s books – they are quick and easy reads (I highly recommend them when you are on vacation and your mind is relaxed.) I’ve found with his books that, like with any memoir, it’s best not to go with an expectation of solid conclusions and deep theological truths. That’s not […]

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